Understanding what you really want

Sometimes we get too caught up with the business of living our lives, we forget to take the time to figure out the Hows and the Whys.

I remember a friend of mine who was moaning to me about being tired, feeling unfulfilled and her dissatisfaction with life in general. And then she cut short our heart-to-heart because she needed to go back and catch a favourite TV show. Ah, priorities.

Right now, I’m still trying to refine mine. There are too many things I like doing – singing, writing, guitar, gaming, machinima – but I don’t have the time to get to all of them. I want to learn a new language (or four), climb Mt.Kinabalu, run a marathon, write songs and screenplays, shoot an indie but I’m beginning to realise I have to choose.

If you’re in the same quandary, why not read this piece by the Leo Babauta of Zenhabits.com – Reclaim Your TIme: 20 Great Ways to Find More Free Time.

Before:

"I’ve always wanted to write, but never had the time. I’ve always wanted
to exercise, but was too busy. I always wanted to travel, but who can
get away? I’ve always wanted to spend time with my kids, but work comes
first, right?"

After:

"Today, I wake early and exercise or spend some quiet time reading and
writing. I’ve written a novel and a non-fiction book. I write this
blog. I run and have finally run a marathon (two actually) and
completed a triathlon. I spend afternoons and evenings and all weekends
with my kids and wife."

It’s not brain science, prioritising. But it’s hard because it’s not easy to just say goodbye to the things you like doing because you want to focus on what you love doing.

“Time is a gift, given to you, given to give you the time you need, the time you need to have the time of your life.”

-Norton Juster, The Phantom Tollbooth

And I’m taking this time, now, to make some hard decisions.
Let’s see where that leads me.

 

1 Comment


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    ‘It’s not brain science’
    I think you mean it’s not Rocket Surgery! 🙂
    ‘Find your time-wasters.’
    No more reading blogs for me! Bye everyone! 🙂
    ‘Cut back on email.’
    No, don’t e-mail me to see why I’m not reading blogs any more! I’ve gone back to writing everything by hand and using carrier pigeons! 🙂 Please send all correspondence via Walter the pigeon I’ve set up between here and KL.
    ‘Learn to say no’
    What’s that supermodel? You want to have sex with me. Sorry, No! Just don’t have the time for that. I’m off to play some guitar!
    ‘Keep your list to 3.’
    Um … my entire life list is only three.
    1. Marry a Japanese Girl [or any asian girl willing to write on a piece of paper that she’s really Japanese[
    2. Become a millionaire
    3. Save the world.
    ‘Do your Biggest Rock first’
    Oh yeah! ROCK ON!!!! Let’s hit those guitars and ROCK ROCK ROCK!!!!
    ‘Delegate.’
    Wanted, wife to do everything for me. Hmmm, wonder why no one reply to my advert?
    ‘Disconnect.’
    That keeps phone calls short!!! 🙂 And internet time too … beeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeep!

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